I’m Tired… Tired of Christianity

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Like you, I read several online papers, I keep track of social media.  I even subscribe to 3 email alerts each day for news items with the words, “church,” “pastor,” and “faith.”  I understand the brokenness of the world.  And I understand the limitations of the church.  But it seems like something else has happened.  We have built a system of faith that is making me tired.

So, on this December 20th morning, at 4 a.m. I confess: I’m getting a little tired of the Christianity we have constructed.

  1. I’m tired of a Christianity that believes in the kingdoms of this world to solve the world’s issues.
  2. I’m tired of a Christianity that relegates Jesus to the corner of our existence, instead of being Lord of all.
  3. I’m tired of a Christianity that offers tricks, tips and strategies for improving our lot, rather than leading others to the Jesus who comes to bring life.
  4. I’m tired of a Christianity that snipes at itself instead of learning to submit to one another for the sake of reconciliation.
  5. I’m tired of a Christianity that allows anger to motivate a call to justice, instead of love.
  6. I’m tired of a Christianity that is not distinct from the world in its words and ways.
  7. I’m tired of a Christianity that is not engaged enough with the world and doesn’t hear its questions.
  8. I’m tired of a Christianity that explains away the hard things Jesus said, instead of wrestling with them with open hearts.
  9. I’m tired of a Christianity that doesn’t look for the miraculous, but trusts in the mechanical.
  10. I’m tired of a Christianity that Jesus isn’t invited into and depended upon to lead.

I confess, I’m a co-conspirator.  I’ve helped build this Christianity.  I’ve chased human dreams sanctified by holy words.  It makes me sad and tired.  We’ve traded away our birthright for a pot of stew.

I’m not tired of Jesus.  I don’t think we make a big enough deal over him.

I’m not tired of the community Jesus started, the church. I love her and have big hopes for her.

I’m not tired of serving. I want to serve those Jesus loves and died to give life to.

Maybe Christmas is a good time to admit we’re tired and from there we can seek a quiet, humble, and prayerful way back to His path.  I think there we will find rest.

What are you tired of?  Is there a way back?

As always, thanks for reading, commenting, and sharing.  

People Pleasing VS. People Serving

I confess.  I’ve spent most of my life as a people pleaser.  Oh, it’s not anything to be proud of.  There are times when we people pleasers commiserate about our burden.  “I care too much about what people think.”  This almost sounds like a badge of suffering.  After all, I’m burdened by others.  That’s a good thing, right? It means I care.  Let’s look at that for a moment.

We have to ask, why are there people-pleasers?

  1. People pleasers want to avoid conflict.  If people are happy, they aren’t mad.  If I can make people happy, I don’t have to deal with the pain of conflict.  Without conflict, life is better for all, right?
  2. People pleasers want to be well thought-of.  If I meet others expectations, or even exceed them, they will appreciate me, or believe me to be competent.
  3. People pleasers want to be needed.  If I am not needed, I don’t have value.  My value is increased by the number of people who need me, or by the volume of need I bear.

We may cloak people-pleasing in the cover of just wanting other’s needs to be met, but the truth is that people pleasing is not driven by the needs of others.  It is driven by the need of the people-pleaser.  People pleasing is self-motivated.  People pleasing isn’t people serving, it is self-serving.

 

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It’s what we all want!  But why?

Last Sunday I preached from 1 Thessalonians 2.  In verses 4-6, Paul wrote: “4but just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not to please man, but to please God who tests our hearts.5For we never came with words of flattery, as you know, nor with a pretext for greed—God is witness.6Nor did we seek glory from people, whether from you or from others, though we could have made demands as apostles of Christ.”

Paul says, he wasn’t in ministry to please people.  His motives were pure.  He wasn’t in it for personal benefit.  “Neither flattery, nor personal profit, nor glory from people” were part of his heart for ministry.  Let’s be honest, these are often the things the people pleaser are driven by.

Instead of pleasing people, we are called to serve people.  People serving is so different.  It transforms our doing from being self-motivated, to being God-motivated.

  1. People serving will create conflict, inward and outward.  We will step into conflict with the reconciling gift of forgiveness.
  2. People serving will be misunderstood by some.  There are some who won’t understand when we have to say no to their wants, so we can step into the needs of others.
  3. People serving rejoices when needs are met, no matter who needs them.  A people server is focused on the wholeness of the other, not the hole in their own heart.

How do I become a people server, rather than a people pleaser?  I’m still working on that.  But I know it has to begin with having my needs met by my Savior.  (1) I must get my value from the One who reached out of heaven for me.  He did this not because of what I could do for Him, but because of what He had to give to me.  And then, (2) I must see my serving as part of his work.  I need to follow His lead in meeting the need He wants to meet.  If I am serving others with Him, under His leadership, then it is His work, not mine.

Father, I know that I am loved by you by your choice, not my performance.  Let me live today for your glory!  Let me be in step with you today.  Help me serve you by serving others.  Give me wisdom to know where and what to give.  Give me strength to be uncomfortable and yet, at peace.  Amen.

Thanks for listening in on my own process of personal growth.  I’d love to hear your comments, thoughts and experiences.